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Beat it, Fear.

January 14, 2018

How to not let fear take over your life.

This is a big one for me. Throughout the days, months, years… basically my entire lifetime, I’ve had all these ideas that never came to fruition, some good, some not so good… at all. I would get so invested in starting something I was excited about but would never begin. The excuses have a million different faces but they all have one thing in common. FEAR. The fear of it not being good, not being liked, me looking like an idiot or being judged. I was so crippled by the thought of whatever it was, I wouldn’t even take the first step. Even with this whole blog situation, I still am judging and questioning the entire thing AS I WRITE. But I won’t live that way anymore, because the thing that scares me more than failing is never trying at all. I don’t want to wake up one day when my age is as old as how my physical body currently feels and think back at the the missed opportunities. So sad.

There are a few things I want to accomplish from this whole thing. I hope that what I’ll say will somewhat resonate with you. Actually I take that back, I hope you’re not as fearful as I’ve been in the past. But if you are, it’s okay! Don’t feel alone. Fear can cause so much anxiety and sadness because you feel like the you’re the only one feeling it, but the truth is you’re not. And I hope through all my rambling and quite possible grammatical errors, that’ll be clear to you. I’m here to tell you if I haven’t personally gone through what you have, someone else has. We need to unite and rid ourselves of this isolation we call upon ourselves! We can start right here. Let’s have a tête-à-tête if you will.

I also want to urge you to do whatever it is you want to do! (that doesn’t involve harming others, OR yourself… you get the point.) Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed of your dreams because they’re YOURS and you are special. I believe we all have some sort of purpose in our life and whatever it is, is to positively impact others.

In this space I’ll share my opinions on topics such as skin care products and make up to my stance on sexuality, feminism and self acceptance. It’ll probably be all over the place but it’s okay. So if you’re along for the ride and can get down with anything I say, then stay a while. x

Photo by Riley Taylor

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    Auri G.
    January 14, 2018 at 7:25 pm

    I love this, and what you write is so true. I’m myself in a point where I have to make a change and for some reason I think your words will help to the process. I love the blog, I’ve been waiying for it since you mentioned it, hope everything goes great. And thank you for sharing your thoughs and ideas with us. It will make a change (:

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      Sabrina
      January 14, 2018 at 6:58 pm

      I am looking forward to this . I’m inspired already .

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      Meghan
      January 15, 2018 at 5:34 pm

      This is such a good idea of what your doing and what your saying is so inspiring and my dream people think I weird because of it I want to be an actress. I know I’m only thirteen but get I plan my life a little bit.

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    Eva
    January 14, 2018 at 7:27 pm

    I’ve always seen you as fearless. Follow those dreams girrrrrrrl. <3

    So excited to keep up with this blog!
    Evamarie

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    Vanessa Noel
    January 14, 2018 at 7:27 pm

    This is wonderful Stella! I’m so excited to see everything you have to say on these various topics. ❤️

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    Anica
    January 14, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    This is so inspiring. Can’t wait to read more from you. 😊 Have a great day, Stella. Greetings from Germany.

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    Skylar G
    January 14, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    Beautiful first post girly! I look forward to keeping up with your thoughts and seeing the raw opinions of a fellow writer. Sending your writing into the public is one of the bravest acts you can do, so I’d say you’re already conquering some fear!

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    Aino
    January 14, 2018 at 11:43 am

    It ispires me a lot to hear from someone as important to me as you, that i can achieve all my dreams even thought they are kind of crazyish. Thank you Stella. I’m really looking forward to more posts.

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    Adam D.
    January 14, 2018 at 11:45 am

    Amen to all of that. Keep these sort of rambles coming. Passion flow.

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    Emmy
    January 14, 2018 at 11:46 am

    I love this! Like a lot of people, I can relate more than I’d like. The fact that you didn’t let fear hold you back from starting this blog is inspiring!

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    Vanessa
    January 14, 2018 at 11:53 am

    Get it girl!!!!! Excellent start to Le Blog!!! 😘

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    Daisy Quiroga
    January 14, 2018 at 12:10 pm

    I’m so excited to see your blog grow! I’m currently in the finishing touches of my own(: do you have any tips for the process ?
    Your an amazing woman!

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    Flora
    January 14, 2018 at 12:20 pm

    Thank you Stella,
    I’m suffering from anxiety and panickattacks. It drives me CRAZY! I want to rule my life and decide what I want to do, and not let my brain decide.
    This is really inspiring! Thank you for the power!

    Lots of love from Holland

    Xx Flora

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    Gaëlle
    January 14, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    This is amazing ! It is a good thing that you have begin to write this even though you were scared in the first place. I believe that everyone is affraid of what others might think of you. And the fact that you doesn’t truy to hide your feelings is truly inspiring.
    (Sorry for my English, I’m french.)

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    Odalis
    January 14, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    I love it!! I’m looking forward to reading more post on your blogs!!! ❤

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    Marissa Rodriguez
    January 14, 2018 at 12:26 pm

    Wow this right here is what I been looking for Stella! I have hold myself back from so many things because of FEAR, and this blog spoke to me! No one ever talks about this so it almost makes you feel as if you’re alone in this. So thank you for sharing with us! I look forward to your blog! 💕

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      stella
      January 14, 2018 at 4:33 pm

      Of course! Thank you for your support!
      x stella

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    Haley
    January 14, 2018 at 12:28 pm

    Loving all of this so far. So excited and looking forward to all that there is to come from you and this blog!!

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    Caitlyn
    January 14, 2018 at 12:34 pm

    I love how this is so true and honest you are. Who knew fear held back all the potential we have.

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    Rachel
    January 14, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    We would love to have you on the Women’s Choice Awards Blogger Board! So inspiring!

    Just sent you a email.

    xx

    WCA

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    Jennifer
    January 14, 2018 at 1:23 pm

    I’m sure we’ve all experienced it and who knows… we still are. Thanks S, for starting the blog. I’m Sure it’ll help if not all, atleast a few. xo

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    Rebecca
    January 14, 2018 at 2:23 pm

    I’ve felt the exact same way for so so long but finally decided to do something about it about 6 months ago – yet I’m still doubting myself all the time… It’s good to hear that I’m not the only one thinking these things. Looking forward to seeing more of you and your blog.

    Rebecca xx

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    Anndrea
    January 14, 2018 at 2:38 pm

    I’ve struggled constantly with my weight and this year I am finally want to make a change. Fear is such a real thing. Reading this, I want to be happy and healthy, I’m ready and I don’t want to delay it any longer. Thank you Stella for this.

    xo

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    Linzi
    January 14, 2018 at 2:43 pm

    Was needing to read this and know i am not alone. I am hoping this year brings new changes/challenges for me. Great blogging ❤

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    Stephanie Ivette
    January 14, 2018 at 3:08 pm

    This is so inspiring!! We need to unite as bloggers and never let fear limit our dreams ❤️❤️❤️

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    Paulina Sepulveda
    January 14, 2018 at 3:08 pm

    Oh Stella your words are as many times right as the sense of how this is so nice that I’m glad you start…
    your blog to write about all these topics from today also makes a lot of your blog fan I love you so proud of you today always kisses from chile beautiful.

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    Paulina Sepulveda
    January 14, 2018 at 3:27 pm

    👌💗👏😘

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    Mary
    January 14, 2018 at 3:33 pm

    I’m always afraid in every moment of my life.
    I don’t know what to do about it …

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    Abbi
    January 14, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    This has honestly made me re-evaluate so much in my life and inspired me to “do me” and forget all the negativity there is in life. Thank you for putting this hope in me and so many other women in this world of ours. Sending love from the sunny South Africa xx

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      stella
      January 14, 2018 at 4:31 pm

      Thank you! Glad you took something away from it
      x stella

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    Alex R.
    January 14, 2018 at 4:05 pm

    Im sooooo excited for this!! Literally have been following you for a good while now and i love your spirit!! cant wait to get to know you through this space. And thank you for sharing your thoughts with your fans. Blessings love🌻🌺🌻🌺💕

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      Alex R.
      January 14, 2018 at 4:08 pm

      Sending love from the Bay Area💕

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    FERNROSE
    January 14, 2018 at 4:22 pm

    stella, im so excited and proud that you’ve put this up! any time you had something or a collaboration, I always end up loving it, so thank you!! ♡

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    Jackie G
    January 14, 2018 at 4:24 pm

    Beautifully written. And you’re right, we have to let go of those fears and just do what makes us happy.

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    Loulou
    January 14, 2018 at 4:44 pm

    More power to you Stella. I love how intelligent and humble and straight forward you are. I admire how courageous and how intuitive you are. Bravo to you and looking forward to reading more post. I’m a fan already for life.
    God bless

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    Glez
    January 14, 2018 at 4:45 pm

    Beautiful and very informative. Thank you

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    Eliana
    January 14, 2018 at 4:59 pm

    Extremely inspired ! 🌸 I find myself constantly feeling fear in that way and I love that you are using your voice to help and support others. Letting us know that we’re not alone in this.

    Will forever admire you, and hope to conquer my fears as you have yours!

    – Eliana x

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    Pamela Vazquez
    January 14, 2018 at 5:24 pm

    I’m the same way, I usually do what others want me to do but this year I need to listen to me!

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    Ana
    January 14, 2018 at 6:09 pm

    I love this 😍

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    Marj
    January 14, 2018 at 6:34 pm

    Stella, thank you for this! I’ve been through a negative situation and felt so much fear. I know it’s about acceptance and change. Do not dwell on the past and be better in the future. You’re such an inspiration. This message is powerful

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    Odalissa
    January 14, 2018 at 7:08 pm

    I was so upset when you deleted your twitter account, so now that you released your blog site I am SO excited! I feel like now I am going to learn so much more about you. I can relate a lot to this post. I also spend my life leaving things for another time cause I have fear and get really bad anxiety… You’re so right, it’s time we stop letting fear get the best of us and just go after our dreams. Love you so much Stell and so far I am loving your blog!

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    Angelica A.
    January 14, 2018 at 7:09 pm

    This is wonderful Stella! Living my whole life fearful to be by true self, fearful of what others might be thinking of me, fearful of making a fool of myself, fearful to be sad & alone.. I’m done with it. I want to change & grow into the woman I know I can become, this has honestly made me realize I have to re-evaluate my life and inspire to “do me” and stop letting fear get the best of me. Thank you for putting this hope in me. You have inspired me 🌻🌹🌻🌹

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    Hannah
    January 14, 2018 at 7:34 pm

    Oh, I am so excited about your blog! I love this first piece! It’s beautifully written and so relatable. You seem like a lovely person and I cannot wait for more! Much love 💗

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    Cristena
    January 14, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    I relate to this post so much!! Really looking forward to seeing your blog grow over time and seeing where it goes. I’ve decided to take up blogging again this year (never, ever really committed to it) as well. Fingers crossed it all goes well haha xo

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    T.O.
    January 14, 2018 at 8:29 pm

    I am guy (Yes, I am straight lol) follow both you and your sis. I’ve been looking forward to this blog since you’ve mentioned it in your story as some here. Your blog so far is awesome, I encourage you to continue it and never change. Cant wait for more!

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    Julie boulay
    January 14, 2018 at 10:14 pm

    You are such an inspiring woman. It is so important to feel great in our skin and to be proud of who we are. Everyday we have new fears to face but the most important thing is to go over and not stay in that fear position. So glad you start this blog, I am sure that is going to be helpful ! A huge hug from a French little woman 😘

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    Alice
    January 14, 2018 at 11:39 pm

    Love it!!!!!!! Hope u post more, you’re a truly inspiration ❤️❤️

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    KARINA SANTANA
    January 15, 2018 at 12:31 am

    Every word I feel so deeply that your intentions are so clear to me! We believe that this world needs more of people caring for each other and the planet! We understand and continue to observe human behavior. I’ve recently started to feel the need to show others that they aren’t alone and by running upon this blog I thank God and can’t wait to keep reading what you have to say. Email me if you want my number to talk girl! I think we have a lot to discuss!!!

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    Katie
    January 15, 2018 at 1:12 am

    Love the blog, Stella!!

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    riley
    January 15, 2018 at 1:53 am

    i know a lot of people already said it, but it deserves to be said once more (or maybe a couple more times) but this was truly inspiring, stella! i’ve always admired your confidence since i’m not at all confident, and i look forward to reading more contents in this beautiful blog of yours!

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    Nicole
    January 15, 2018 at 7:17 am

    Very well said Stel 🤗

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    Lisa
    January 15, 2018 at 8:21 am

    Looking forward to the q&a post

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    Yael
    January 15, 2018 at 11:48 am

    So inspiring and beautiful true words !! You have me a lot of strength and faith! Thank you so much for that! Looking forward to read more !! I really needed that !!!

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      Yael
      January 15, 2018 at 11:49 am

      Gave *

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    Jordy
    January 15, 2018 at 12:53 pm

    This is such a wonderful and heart warming post, to see so many others feeling this way, or have felt this way at some point in their lives, to know no one is alone! This blog/page is going to be an amazing place for people to come together! Thank you so much Stella.

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    Mali
    January 15, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    Thank you so much for this blog, Stella! I have always looked up to you and I can relate so much to every word you wrote. I am thrilled to read all about every other topic you mentioned and I feel like it is definitely going to help me go through my college years since it’s my first year and I just turned 17. Again, thank you for encouraging me to be fearless and confident. ❤️

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    Sophia Pathak
    January 16, 2018 at 3:54 am

    I love this! All you have said truly resonates with me and reminds me exactly how I feel before embarking on a new challenge such a a blog or new job. I constantly questioned whether I was good enough but the truth of the matter is you may never be good enough for other people but it’s not about them, as long as you believe and trust in yourself that’s all that matters. Looking forward to your posts! x

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    Brianna Twanna
    January 16, 2018 at 7:58 am

    I love this post. Keep blogging and keep loving without fear. Your blog has given inspiration with my own blog. Keep up the work.

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    Lay
    January 16, 2018 at 7:45 pm

    As I read what you have written here, I can somehow see parts of myself in your words. It’s comforting and especially inspiring. I’m 20 years old and in that age of self-growth and really finding my purpose and who I want to be in this life. I truly look forward to reading more of your posts and getting a taste of your views and experiences. Thank you for choosing to open up and go for what you want over your fears. x

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    Irina
    January 17, 2018 at 6:14 am

    Dear Stella! I have been following you since high school (we’re both of the same age) and I always wanted you to create something that shows your true identity, like YouTube channel or a blog) But what I did not expect is that you will create a cozy community, where I can come and read not only about girly things which I love love love, but also receive a support and motivation. Sweety, thank you for that, it’s so important! Thank you for making me more confident and happier! Big kisses and huge hugs from Ukrainian girl❤️

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    Rhiannon
    January 17, 2018 at 2:52 pm

    Love this, so beautiful ❤️

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    Sarah
    January 17, 2018 at 8:27 pm

    Society has a big impact on our lives. We are constantly questioning what’s right & what’s wrong & doing what makes other people happy instead of ourselves. It’s like we live for other people’s happiness in a way because of the fear of being different or “standing out” in the crowd. But it’s 2018, the year of chances & self growth & it’s time to kick fear in the ass!
    On another note, you are literally a gem. Never read something that spoke so deeply to me. Can’t wait to read more of your opinions & see life through your eyes.

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    Misato
    January 28, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    I’m so inspired and excited to see your blog post. I’m in Japan and I can’t get a lot of information about you, so I’m so glad to see your blog! Thank you for sharing your ideas . Keep blogging and love you Stella 🌹✨🌹✨🌹✨

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    Karla
    February 5, 2018 at 1:37 pm

    You´re such a person full of love,I have been following you since I was 14 years old,now Im 20 and all I have been watching is that you´re a incredible girl, beautifuI in the inside and outside! thank you for encourage many girls to be fearless and confident! you´re the right kind of role model the society need

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    glez
    February 8, 2018 at 9:14 pm

    stella, your honesty and sincerity is so inspiring and highly appreciated. you are a very decent person and so pure of heart, mind and spirit . you are an ambassador of goodwill. you a hero, a young lady on a shining armor. fighting for a just cause . encouraging others and lifting up their confidence and helping them to find their place in this world ! thank you stella. you are a gem! more power to you !

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