As I’m sick feeling like I’m completely falling apart on the couch, I woke up with such an urge to speak about a lesson I’m thankful to have learned and want to share.
I often hear people speak about how awful the people who inhabit LA are. I’ve noticed it’s a common topic people tend to go towards, especially when I first meet someone. It’s as if it were a good conversation starter for some people, and evidently, it bothers the efff out of me. Like, HELLO, I live here and I don’t think I suck and my three friends (I don’t have a big circle) can back me up on that. That, and when women say they don’t like other women – seriously, just stop it. But that’s another problem we won’t get into now, ladies.
The problem about LA isn’t the people who live here, it’s the fact that it’s easy to get caught up in a lifestyle that people crave so badly. To have fame, be wealthy, have everyone idolize you and envy you all while having a perfect body and perfect face. I’ve lost so many friends to getting so carried away in a lifestyle that’s not only NOT real, but also does not give you fulfillment in a greater sense. Naturally, we all want those things to some extent, but when your objective is corrupted, then everything that follows it is corrupt as well. What we give out is what we attract. If you’re exuding dishonesty, manipulation and greed, guess what…. here’s a hint- that’s what you’re gonna get in return.
This isn’t something that just happens in Los Angeles though, this happens everywhere. There’s always going to be someone whose life looks perfect, therefore, you envy and want. But even that person you’re spending so much time envying has something else they’re badly craving too. It’s a never ending cycle. The problem is that we aren’t focusing enough energy on gratitude. Being thankful for what we HAVE and the ability to work hard for the things we want will satisfy us way more than being handed, or to chase after a lifestyle that will only leave us wanting more.
2017 was an exceptionally telling year for me. It showed me what I want/need for myself and what I didn’t want/need in my life. It also granted me the knowledge of importance for gratitude. I can finally say that I’m happy with who I am and where I’m at and that be enough, but that I’m only going to work harder to see what exciting things God will bless me with.
Truly, the scariest thing to me is seeing young women and men be under such an impression of a what a good life looks like that is ultimately unattainable or damaging. Girls think they have to have a specific face and body to be beautiful. Boys think they have to speak and hold themselves a certain way to be desired and look strong. When we have these preconceived ideas of what importance, beauty and significance looks like, everything that actually matters gets lost in the shuffle.
Wrapping my novel up, I wanted to stress importance to shift our idea of happiness and satisfaction before we proceed to chase success so our why’s are in the right place. That we seek out women and men of all ages and help guide them to the truest form of happiness and satisfaction EVERYONE can obtain! But remember, we can’t help others until we help ourselves. So that being said, be patient, be kind to your body and your mind. You already have everything it is you need to live a great life. You’re alive and breathing. That enough is something to be truly thankful for.