FOMO, for those of you like me who never know what acronyms stand for these days it means: Fear Of Missing Out. Ohhhh boy. This to me is such an LA acronym that practically sums up the majority of the city, but fomo happens every where at any time to any individual! With it being weekend one of Coachella (which is the weekend LITERALLY everyone and their mothers go) leads to a time of extreme fomo for some, so I think it’s appropriate to talk about my issue with this epidemic. *The photos above are basically telling a short story of me getting a bit of fomo but then realizing I can’t find find a fuck to give!
Here’s the main problem I have with “fomo”… It usually tends to lead to someone taking it waaaayy too personally that they weren’t invited. I get that we get a little bit of validation and a glimmer of significance when we’re constantly invited to things but why do we put such an expectation on our friends to ALWAYS invite us? It’s almost extremely egotistical and I think it’s border line unhealthy.
I have a friend group that is almost impossible to hang out with without the ENTIRE group being present. For example, if I want a friend or two to come over to watch a movie, one of the friends who I didn’t invite (for NO specific or malicious reason) will throw a fit. Sometimes I forget to invite someone, or it slips my mind OR I just don’t necessarily feel like hanging out with them and that should be okay! In the book The Four Agreements, (READ IT.) Don Miguel Ruiz stresses the importance to not take things personally. When we take not being invited personally it shifts the dynamic of a friendship and quite possibly lead to the person just inviting you because they know the shit storm that’ll come with them not inviting you, and you don’t want to be a obligated/pity invite, do you?!
Maybe I’m just a very laid back person that doesn’t take things too seriously… Don’t get me wrong, I over analyze everything always, but I don’t think it’s healthy to think so highly of ourselves to be invited to everything and take offense when we aren’t. There are things that obviously give you a right to be angry or hurt when it comes to not being invited, but I’m speaking in a more general theme of small casualties that don’t need to turn into a big deal. There are already so many things to be worried about given our current world wide issues, don’t let not getting invited to a party stress you out even more. Priorities people!!!
Also, sometimes it’s smart to dive inward and actually think about why you’re angry. It might teach you a little more of who you are, where your insecurities lie and what you expect from others! Rather than lashing out, take a moment to understand why you feel the way you feel, and if need be, communicate that to whoever can fix the problem.
Some of the best moments of your lifetime will be moments you spend alone, learning the things about yourself that make you YOU, so if and when fomo hits you next, then just know those people won’t be around your amazingness and that’s a bigger loss for them than it is for you. Think about it. 😉